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“But I’m no PERVERT!!!”

13 July 2007

To me, it makes sense that becoming a parent would have a structuring effect upon a person’s view of what pedophilia or sexual attraction towards minors entails.

Of course, a new parent is immediately exposed to their own “good” feelings of affection towards children. But since our society dictates that a parent’s affection cannot be in the slightest way “sexual”, anyone with an erotic interest in youngsters must therefore share absolutely no common ground with the parent’s feelings. Or at least in the parent’s opinion! Therefore, in the mind of the parent, erotic interest must be characterised as something that is as far away from their own feelings as is possible; i.e. psychological pathology; “rape lust”.

At the same time, whilst the nursing mother may once have harboured sensible beliefs about what constitutes pedophilia (i.e. love for children), the sudden realisation that her good and natural feelings are frighteningly similar to her own concept of pedophilia makes the idea of classifying an adult’s erotic interest in children as sensual, far less appealing. Since the mother couldn’t possibly see her good self as one of their kind, the “truth” about pedophiles effectively reveals itself.

And what’s more, she now has a vulnerable little infant to protect from this menace. All in all, this has been a short and sharp call to hysteria, if ever there was one.

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    3 Responses to ““But I’m no PERVERT!!!””

  1. BLueRibbon Says:
    July 14th, 2007 at 5:50 am

    “the sudden realisation that her good and natural feelings are frighteningly similar to her own concept of pedophilia”

    This is a semi-related quote which Jillium posted to his blog a while ago -

    Part of the problem is that heterosexual male desire often sits on a knife between a preference for neonate facial features in women (clear skin, large eyes, high cheekbones) and an intense revulsion toward paedophilia. It could be argued that the ferocity of assaults on convicted (child) sex offenders and the mob violence often enacted against rehabilitating child abusers are driven partly by the need for heterosexual men to have clear boundaries between what is acceptable sexual desire (i.e., the youngest, healthiest, fertile female) and what is not (legally protected children). If a subgroup of men can be clearly identified and labelled, it reduces the uncertainty surrounding their own borderline desire for young-looking women.

    Media Psychology, by D Giles

  2. Steve Diamond Says:
    July 14th, 2007 at 7:32 pm

    You’ve latched onto a few of the “cross over” aspects, which are shared between parents and pedophiles.

    …and no doubt, the psychological reservations, and resistance may be extremely strong…but, the physical pleasures derived, are just the same, regardless of whether one is a pedophile or not.

    …The psychological pleasure, would likely be far more heightened with a pedophile, though.

    A lot of people do not self identify as a pedophile…even amongst people who are pedophiles.

    This is part of the conflict…Many activities and attractions, which are typically pedophilic by nature, are shielded from such an acknowledgment (and exposure) by “mitigating circumstances”.

    You can do many otherwise illegal things to a child, so long as you have the right license, or hold the right position (ie: a doctor).

    I had a few experiences in my own childhood, which go well beyond the hernia check (”turn your head and cough”)…under any other circumstances, they (the two doctors in charge, and maybe even my parents, too) could have been locked away in prison for many years, for “sexual assault”.

    It is nonsensical to call it that, or prosecute…because (although one incident was questionable) there was a true, medical need…but, the physical and psychological experiences were just the same as some things that would be called “sexual abuse”.

    It was not violent, nobody made a big deal out of it…so, no worries…but, it clearly all happened entirely without the “all precious” consent, that many people go on and on about…claiming to be “so important”.

    I often find it absurd to no end, that I would qualify as a “sex abuse victim”, if only the mere context of the experiences were different, from what they were.

    …but, the imaginary line is out there, somewhere in the murky “logic” of our cultures.

    Someone, somewhere can do it and get away with it…and magically, it is not “sexual abuse”.

    …Magically, the otherwise victim, comes out of the experience healthy and unscathed, too…

    Cultural “common sense” is a mighty funny creature…one which loves to elude logic.

    Again, if you have a legal excuse, you can get away with it…Nursing mothers have that legal excuse.

    Because nursing a child is so common, mothers can derive pedophilic pleasure from it…but, they can still turn around and say, “Oh! But I’m not a pedophile!”.

    They don’t make the connection, between their intimacy with that child, and a pedophiles intimacy with a child…which can be starkly similar, if not essentially the same.

    Nursing mothers get to keep this pleasure, their “dirty little secret”.

  3. Daniel Lièvre Says:
    July 21st, 2007 at 7:08 am

    Knowing you, you’ve probably read this link three times over, but then again:

    The erotic bond between a mother and her child

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